What is HCRNS?

High Co-Regulation Nervous Syste

• Most psychological, therapeutic, and self-help frameworks assume a nervous system that is self-regulating first and relational second. Independence = maturity. Emotional containment = competence. Needing co-regulation = weakness or pathology.
• This assumption is not universal. It belongs to certain nervous systems and has been exported as law.
• HCRNS are nervous systems that are relationally oriented by design. They register safety, clarity, and regulation through attunement — not isolation.
• This is not a deficit. It is a different baseline.
• The consequences of not understanding this: Fe users spend their lives being told their nervous system is doing it wrong.

HCRNS and Childhood Emotional Neglect

• Standard CEN literature describes children whose emotional needs weren't met. It does not account for children whose emotional needs were both more specific and less legible to the caregiving environment.
• The HCRNS child doesn't just experience neglect. They experience neglect that teaches them their needs are the problem — because the needs themselves are unfamiliar and don't map onto conventional attunement.
• This is a categorically different wound from standard CEN.
• The result: Fe users don't just grow up with unmet needs. They grow up having internalized the judgment that their needs are excessive, inappropriate, or something to overcome.
• This is why Fe users beat themselves up for feeling energized by helping others. Why they preemptively absorb dismissal. Why they work 80 hours a week and sleep on floors and still come home to cook dinner and protect their partner's reputation with mutual friends.